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Saturday, April 28, 2012

LOVE (luv) verb.

Thoughts on Love


 A long,  long time ago, I used to think that love was simply something
one felt... a feeling we had for others... 

But, after I read Scott Peck's book... "The Road Less Traveled"
I determined that love is something we do...
an action..
a purposeful extension of  self...
for someone else...
even though to us it may come at a cost.

I taught my children this definition of love.
If you love someone, you show it.
Words can be shallow.
Words without acts have no meaning.

But, that definition did not always match with my perceptions about moderation,
self-protection... keeping balance...or in other words...
what about 

boundaries.

I've been working my entire life to put in better boundaries with
people who aim to hurt - people who cannot be trusted with my heart.
(of course, most people who are in my life are not this way....) 
in fact, I have incredible family and friends and I could not be more grateful...
 but, I've always been pretty 
naive about evil in the world. I don't understand 
when people
purposely hurt others.

I've discovered that many people love out of their own perspective... 
out of how they were once loved... or not loved...

Some from childhood have learned patterns of selfishness.
Perhaps they were indulged too much... spoiled rotten.
This can lead to lack a lack of empathy and regard for others.

And other people learned patterns of giving.
Perhaps doing acts of love was modeled for them by their caregivers...
This can create a deep sense of empathy and regard for others.


As for me, I'm sure I have caused hurt...
 though I honestly always try to 
"Do No Harm..."
(after all... it's the counselor's oath)
We all know that when we live with and love people, 
it's impossible to not hurt them sometimes.
Setting boundaries can feel a bit wrong- like we are not loving.

But, for staying healthy... boundaries are important!
They keep our spirit strong and ward against depression and anxiety.

 And boundaries are difficult, too!
They have never come
naturally for me.
To keep hurtful people
at arms length is not my forte.
I pray about this a lot... for God to give me wisdom 
that I might care for other's hearts in a way that I also practice self care.

So the best I can do is to strive for a good balance every day...
in all that I do,
at work, at play, at family, at friendship...

just trying to be authentic...
to be real. 


(this song by Extreme says it best... Love is "More Than Words" - though this song
was probably written for people who were in romantic love, I think it is applicable to all
kinds of love. It's a simple song. It's truthful.
 I've always liked this song!)



There are two amazingly exceptional people who taught me how to love... 
they've modeled love all my life.

But, they also seem to have a precise balance...
in their marriage...
in their friendships...
in their Christian walk with God...
I've strived to model this to my precious children...



(these are my parents at the barbecue place after church at Calvary last fall...
you can see the joyful, loving spirit in their smile, their eyes)

They are authentic.

They are real.
They've proven over and over that love is a verb...
an act...
something you do...
not simply something you say.

Authentic
Real
Boundaries
Love (luv) verb.

La - Ti - Do!

Jeanne

P.S... thanks for reading the ramblings of this soul singing blogger!


Saturday, April 21, 2012

A Sunny Day in New York

Today... I was as free as a bird...

So I put on my jogging gear... and took to the streets of NYC...

It was a gorgeous day in New York - perfect in every way... sunny, warm, with a nice breeze...

Running in the city is pretty safe if you stop for traffic and take in the sights along the way!

I have always been a good runner - just not a serious runner.  I like a diversion - an opportunity to see something new, something interesting...  discovering what comes along... every time there is a visual to behold...

Such as, Times Square...




So I took to the roads and took my time. At my age there is seriously not much need for peak performance... so there is no pressure.  I enjoy sight-seeing along the way.

Like this colorful party bus... 
the one with loud Latin American party music blaring through the streets...



Some lady offered for me to climb on board and join the fun... I respectfully declined. Along my  morning run, another lady stopped to ask me for directions because she assumed I was a "local..." - I guess it was the jogging shorts...  

I scored a ticket this afternoon to a preview of "Leap of Faith - it was a phenomenal show - and lucky me... the ticket guy gave me a "student rush" seat on the 5th row which was cheap...cheap!! Raul Esparza was the lead - what a performance...  I sat beside the mother of Kecia Lewis-Evans. She had traveled  from Alabama (near where my relatives live) - she was so proud of her daughter. as well she should be...Kecia brought the house down with her vocals!  Kecia's mom's cell phone went off right smack in the middle of her performance!  

I just laughed and cried in that show today... you know it's a great show when it can make you both laugh and cry... "Leap of Faith" just might get a Tony nod... it's that good! What a surprise!

Tonight was Mary Poppins...


...and it WAS magical!!

It was in the Amsterdam Theatre which is ornate and stunningly gorgeous... built in 1903!! 
Burt walks on the ceiling and... 
Mary flies across the audience...it's just SUPERCALIFRAGILISTICEXPIALIDOCIOUS!!!!!!!!!

Karen and Stephanie, DLW's wonderful assistants, are here with us in NYC...
they are training on anterior CEREC porcelain crowns...
they're are loads of fun and sweet, sweet, too!



Tomorrow... we'll see the  new broadway hit, "Newsies".   I think it will be nominated for a Tony, too... so I'm pumped to see that show!

We ate at John's Pizza tonight... in an old church near Times Square... it is in an amazingly beautiful building with a stained glass window in the ceiling which is maybe 20x20... just breathtakingl!!



Last night was wonderful family time with Erin and Tyler.  They met us here in the Big Apple in the midst of a visit with some of their dear friends. We loved our time with them and catching up on their busy and changing lives... we had a Hard Rock dinner in Times Square... 


Since they live in Salt Lake, we cherish seeing them anytime we get the chance. Where will they live next? We are anxiously waiting to hear!! Family is the best!!! We love these two!

So many gifts... like traveling, making memories, family moments, music, theatre, pizza, music, stained glass ceilings, music, old architectural gems, dental team bonding, music,  creative performances...
did I say music?

It's all magical...  just like Mary Poppins!

La - Ti - Do!!!

Jeanne

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Ladies... Lost Pines... Laughter... Luxury... and Gypsies!

I HAVE A GROUP OF FABULOUS FRIENDS.


AND WE TAKE A MEMORY MAKING TRIP EACH SPRING...

OUR ANNUAL EXCURSION TO ROUND TOP TOOK PLACE IN APRIL...
IT WAS A "SHOP TIL YOU DROP" KIND OF TRIP...
AND WE STAYED AT THE LUXURIOUS...

LOST PINES RESORT!!

OUR TRIP STARTED WITH RELAXATION DAY...
IT WAS TERRIFIC!!

HERE IS A PIC OF THE GOLF COURSE...
MY FRIEND MAY BE PLANNING A WEDDING SOON AT THIS RESORT,
SO WE ARRANGED A GOLF CART TOUR...
IT WAS GORGEOUS!



AS YOU CAN CLEARLY SEE...
SERENE DOESN'T EVEN DESCRIBE THIS PLACE!!



I THINK THAT PIC LOOKS JUST LIKE A POSTCARD...
(TAKEN WITH MY IPHONE!)

***

SHOPPING BEGAN ON DAY TWO...

 I FOUND THIS EXTRAORDINARILY COLORFUL CHAIR...
FOR WHICH I WAS SPECIFICALLY SEARCHING....

SO I SENT DLW A PICTURE TEXT TELLING HIM I'D FOUND

THE PERFECT CHAIR... 

***A JUST KIDDING KIND OF TEXT***

I MUST TELL YOU THAT DLW HAS NEVER BEEN FOND OF
OLD FURNITURE
(... AN UNDERSTATEMENT INDEED!!!!)
AND HE MADE IT PRETTY WELL CLEAR 
THE NIGHT BEFORE I LEFT...

HE WAS NOT INTERESTED IN OLD CHAIRS...

I THOUGHT, HMMM..... DLW MIGHT THINK
 THIS PARTICULAR CHAIR HAS SOME CHARACTER...
(CAN YOU SEE ME SMILING!!?)
JK-JK-JK!!!


I WAS ENJOYING THIS JOKE TREMENDOUSLY
AND HE DIDN'T EVEN RECEIVE THE TEXT!

(ROUND TOP HAS CELL PHONE RECEPTION FROM THE DARK AGES!)

WHILE ON THE ROUND TOP TRIP
WE LADIES ALWAYS INDULGE IN DELICIOUS FOOD.

ONE ANNUAL TRADITION AT ROUND TOP CALLS FOR DINNER
AT A LOCAL DIVE CALLED...

ROYERS CAFE!!

IT IS HERE THAT THE OWNER STANDS AT THE DOOR 
YELLING NAMES...
LARGE, LOUD, AND SWEATING...
USUALLY GRIPING
***

AND IT'S FUN, BECAUSE THIS CAFE HAS REAL CHARACTER...
***YOU KNOW...LIKE THE CHAIR!!!***

SO

WE ALWAYS EAT AT ROYERS!
IT'S A VERY POPULAR CAFE THAT  
REQUIRES RESERVATIONS...
AND SERVES TERRIFIC PIES!

AND, OH... I SHOULD MENTION THAT
AT ROYERS...
ALL OF THE RESTROOMS ARE OUTSIDE THE FRONT DOOR...
PORT O POTTIES
TO BE EXACT... THEY ARE DELUXE PORT O POTTIES!!
ROUND TOP IS SATURATED WITH THEM.

AT ROYERS...

 JUNK COVERS THE ENTIRE WALLS AND CEILINGS!

HERE IS A PIC OF THE OWNER...


HE DRESSES KIND OF LIKE A GYPSY!

BELOW IS A PHOTO
TAKEN AFTER A LONG DAY OF ROUND TOPPING...
WE WERE WORN COMPLETELY OUT AND HUNGRY...
WHEN WE FINALLY GOT TO ROYERS!


GOOD TIMES
GREAT MEMORIES
FANTASTIC FRIENDSHIPS
UNIQUE FOOD
LOTS AND LOTS AND LOTS OF UNIQUE SHOPPING UNDER 
CANOPIES, METAL BUILDINGS, RECONDITIONED HOUSES, OPEN FIELDS...

AND WE EVEN GOT TO GO TO THE GYPSY PROM...

YOU SIMPLY CANNOT IMAGINE 
WHAT A PEOPLE WATCHING SPECTACLE THAT WAS!
***WHOA... PEOPLE ARE CRAZY!!***


SOME OF MY FRIENDS BROUGHT BACK REALLY COOL FURNITURE...
ME... I JUST BROUGHT BACK REALLY COOL MEMORIES!


I AM REMINDED OVER AND OVER AGAIN
THAT GIRLFRIENDS
ARE ONE OF GOD'S GREATEST GIFTS
THEY ARE GOLD...
***JUST LIKE THE GYPSIES WEAR***

FOR THIS
I AM THANKFUL
AND
I'M SMILING AND SOUL SINGING
ALL THE WAY DOWN TO
MY TOES!

LA - TI - DO!!!

JEANNE







Tuesday, April 3, 2012

Basketball, Baylor, and Blogging!! Making history and making memories!

Guess what?!!!

TONIGHT...

The Lady Bears Won the National Championship!!

The mark of a successful season of Baylor Basketball...
as far as I'm concerned...
is recognizing I am exhausted...

from the week after week adrenaline rush 
of game fever... 
and get togethers with great friends to anticipate...
and celebrate...

VICTORY!!

First of all, the Baylor Men had a fantastic season...
Making it into the Elite 8 was a challenge and a thrill and so fun to watch!

But, the Lady Bears made it all the way!
And, made Waco proud! 

What a very special season for Coach Kim Mulkey 
and our superstar post, Brittney Griner!

This is the first time that I remember the national sports news stations 
talking about a "female" athlete in a super-star status
kind of way!

Here is a pic of Brittney Griner slamming one down!




In my bias, Brittney has elevated the sport of women's basketball...

This is thrilling for a girl like me...
who grew up in Winter Haven, Florida...
where during my high school days...
 the men's basketball team won the State Tournament!
(Not bad for a 4 - A school in Central Florida!)

BUT...

Sadly, we had NO women's basketball team...
We had virtually NO women's sports... 
because 
this was 1970-1974...
before America mandated equal funding 
for women and men in sports.

After 1972 the law required schools
to spend equal amounts on girl sports as they did for guys!

So, I graduated in 1974 and, unfortunately, my generation 
missed out on school sports for girls!

The fact that Brittney has brought magnanimous attention to women's basketball
and made it "COOL" to watch and root for women in sports...
is a really awesome thing from my perspective!

It feels a little like redemption...
righting a wrong...
equal rights at it's finest!

Congrats, Lady Bears! 
Congrats, Baylor Naton!
Congrats, Women Athletes in America!

I am a soul singer who loves basketball and blogging!


La - Ti - Do!

Jeanne
a.k.a.
Proud Baylor Fan!